So You Get a Kidney and Then What? You get a Kidney party!
I have to say that life with a new kidney, just keeps getting better and better. On August 14th my family and friends came together and threw a “kidney party” for me. You might be wondering what a kidney party is – I didn’t know myself. It was actually the “brain child” of my cousin Nanette.
So she, along with my cousins, aunts and friends did one of the most generous and heartfelt things that any group of people have ever done for me. They made some awesome food, they gave me wonderful gifts and they truly celebrated me and my new kidney…my new life.
I should say that the kidney was highly showcased. We had a “guess how many kidney beans are in this jar” game. One of my cakes even had a cryptic, “Life Cant Kidney better than this” message (Life can’t get any better than this), I even received a can of kidney beans along with one of my gifts…and I can’t forget to mention the gourmet “kidney shaped cookies.” (Thank you Tammie)
One of the best parts of the night was the laughter. At one point, I looked around at all the faces there…all the people from so many walks of my life, laughing and enjoying the celebration. I also observed something else that night. Just like these people were there for my celebration, they have been there for my ups and downs too. I realized though that I just didn’t call on them much during my downs.
Do you ever get that “light bulb” moment when you think that you wish that you had gotten it much sooner? I had one of those during the party.
Sometimes when people are dealing with an illness, they don’t want to bother their friends and family by asking them for help. I know I’ve been guilty of that. It’s hard to ask for help. I’ve been on the other end and I know it’s easier to offer help than it is to receive it. But when we don’t ask, we are doing ourselves and the people who love us, a disservice. I love the people in my life. I am surrounded by people that I know would do anything they could to help me out. Those are the kinds of people you’re supposed to have in your life. So why don’t we “utilize” these people more than we do. Is it about pride? Do we feel like we’re being “weak” for needing help? Maybe it’s a combination of both.
As I’ve gone through certain parts of my journey, I’ve learned a lot about myself, my friends and my family. They say that I’m amazing, “a rare treasure.” But they are the true treasures to me because they give of themselves, selflessly.
I had a great time at my Kidney party. It was such a labor of love and I felt every bit of it. But I have always felt the love from these people.
*Please ask for help when you need it. It doesn’t just help you. – It helps the people that love you too!
Special Thanks: Nanette & Rick, Aunts: Carolyn, Claudia (Earthquake Cake – Yummy), Marjorie and Daisy. Traci, Cheryl, Anne, Ann and as always Doug and Justin